Comments on: One quarter of all people who friend me on Facebook don't respond to personal messages

By: Janice Aguabella

Janice Aguabella — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 04:35:00 +0000

Ditto its like giving your mind a chance to connect with someone that can meet you at your minds eye.

By: David Spark

David Spark — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 02:18:37 +0000

You are correct, but now you can actually send a message to a person even if they're not a friend. It's not within the general friending process, it's just sending a message like you normally would. That's the default. Of course people can change their privacy settings.

By: Tenorlove

Tenorlove — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 22:31:04 +0000

FB no longer allows one to send messages with friend requests, which doesn't help matters.

I am currently blocked from friending because someone with whom I was friends with in high school said he didn't know me -- I found out through a mutual friend that he didn't look at my profile, and he didn't recognize my married name. After my friend clued him in, he sent me a friend request and an apology for the misunderstanding, and all is well.

That still doesn't get me off FB's naughty list. They say I've got old unanswered friend requests. Big whoopee. With my high school prom date, it took him 8 months to accept, because he goes on FB maybe once or twice a year. They won't tell me WHO these unanswered friend requests were sent to, but they want me to click a button to cancel ALL friend requests. I seriously doubt I have that many.

The only thing I can think of to do to "get back" at FB is NOT EVER tell them I don't know someone who sends me a friend request, even if it's some teenage boy from Nigeria looking for a ticket out of poverty.

By: David Spark

David Spark — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 02:16:23 +0000

Yeah, I have a long list of LinkedIn requests from people I don't know at all. And LinkedIn is a “recommendation” service?

By: Dan Marcus

Dan Marcus — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 01:02:39 +0000

@3ab8377dd8f867b9b910811e0acf5ea9:disqus – Timely topic. Similar is bleeding into linkedin. I promomote a variety of FB properties. Some of those are simply fan collection and communication. But Linkedin? No response to the “excuse me, how do we know each other” email is crossing the line.

By: David Spark

David Spark — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 17:07:02 +0000

Ah Jenn, well now you wake me up and it may qualify some things I said in this article. Go ahead and friend me on Facebook. Happy to accept and friend you.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 13:06:26 +0000

Hi David! I agree with your posts regarding facebook. I get so annoyed by people who don't take the time to reply to a message. For example, a female (a “friend”) posted on her status that she was looking for a dress to borrow for an event. I quickly replied that I had one she could borrow that fit the description of what she was looking for. She never responded. I even sent her a private message later that day describing the dress in detail, and still no response. Yes, it sounds petty, but social networking or not…. it is absolutely rude. period. Do you think it's rude to delete these “friends” when they are non-responsive? When I say “friends”, I mean people I know casually, but don't have any daily interaction with in the real world. Also, these people fall in the same category of people who never respond when you make a comment on their status updates, or recent photos.

I was going to send you a friend request on facebook, but there was no place to leave a message! lol. :) Thanks,
Jenn

By: David Spark

David Spark — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 01:44:48 +0000

Well, you could do the technique I spell out in this article, or you could just ignore them. That seems to be what you'd like to do.

By: Tea Silvestre

Tea Silvestre — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 00:34:32 +0000

Sorry to be unclear. I'm frustrated by the number of people who send me friend requests when I don't know them. I've seen other people put a standard message on their profile that says something like “I only accept friend requests from people I actually know. If you'd like to get to know me, I invite you to like my business page (URL).” Something like that. Right now, I send this out by hand when someone I don't know requests to friend. But it's time consuming and I thought there might be an easier way. ;-)

By: David Spark

David Spark — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 00:14:46 +0000

Tea, I don't know what exactly you're asking. Do you want to know how to friend people you don't know on Facebook or how you should best respond to people who friend you anonymously?