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Is this the right way to request a Facebook friend?

on May 31, 2010

I recently received a friend request on Facebook with no introduction. There’s nothing odd about that. I receive them all the time, but it’s usually from someone I know or I met and can’t remember. Facebook has that convenient feature that lets you invite your entire address book.

For a while our address book was the easiest way to discover people to invite to Facebook. But since Facebook started behaving like our mother and suggesting people for us to be friends with, I’ve started to receive a lot more friend requests.

That’s perfectly fine although most of these friend requests don’t come with a message of introduction. That’s OK as well. When I receive a blank Facebook friend request I just send the friend requester a small polite message to build an introduction and see if I actually know the person, yet don’t remember. I actually wrote about this in a previous article and discovered that “One quarter of all people who friend me on Facebook don’t respond to personal messages.”

Just a couple days ago I just received a friend request from a woman I didn’t know. I sent my generic personal response, and what resulted was a very odd email exchange. I honestly don’t know what to make of it and I ask you readers to explain what exactly happened.

Below is the email exchange. No changes have been made. All poor punctuation and misspellings remain. All I’ve done is remove the woman’s name and icon. I’m calling her Vanessa and I’ve replaced her icon with that of Miss Belgian Beauty 2006.

Hey Vanessa:

I saw your friend request. Thanks. Excuse me for my ignorance, but have we met before?



“The silence ,has more dignity than the words”
Well, Facebook isn’t based on silence. Have we met before?

I’m sure you’re a nice person but I don’t have time for games. I’m more than happy to friend you if you just tell me why you reached out. Thanks. :)


I don’t have time for games to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My apologizes,by. . .

And then she retracted her Facebook invite.

What the hell just happened?

Can someone explain it to me?

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